As a way to start my days off on a happier/motivational note, I signed up for The Happiness Planner “Daily Happiness Email” series a couple years ago. And if I’m being completely honest, I haven’t even read half of them. It’s more of I’ll make a note to myself to read these one day when I’m “in the mood”.
First of all, shame on me. The point of these emails is to start the day off on a positive, insightful note and here I am saying I’ll wait until I’m ready ….(insert side eye here). But on the rare occasion I actually read through the email in a timely matter, I’m normally slapped in the face. Like seriously, these emails must know I’m slacking and decided to be my wake up call.
I woke up one day and saw the headline “28 Questions to Ask Yourself Before It’s Too Late”. Mind you, I’m laying down wiping drool off my face, trying to calculate how many more times I can hit the snooze button. Like I said, these emails stay calling me out and that’s just the title. Within the email, the founder of The Happiness Planner, Mo Seetubtim, states that the questions listed are great to ponder upon and that she will ask herself these questions when she is feeling confused or stuck in life.
Last time I checked, I was confused and stuck and trying to figure out what exactly my next step should be, so I decided to give these questions a shot and hold myself accountable and share my answers with you.
28 Questions to Self-Reflection
1.) If not now, then when?
Initially, the answer is always when I have the time. However, I’m smart enough to know that there will never be time unless you make it. The saying that if you really care about something, you’ll make time for it is 100% truth. So basically, I need to get off of my butt now and make ish happen.
2.) What would you do if nobody would judge you?
I create more content for my YouTube channel. The topics would be numerous and completely random depending on my mood. I’d take more pictures out in public related to fitness and healthy. I’d stay vlogging and be perfectly okay with talking to myself when other people are around. Overall, I would be shameless in what I was trying to achieve.
3.) Have you done something worth remembering lately?
Ouch, just punch me in the face why don’t you.
Right out the gate, I would have said no BUT according to my friends that’s not true. It seems that the moves I’ve been making since the end of last year up until a few weeks ago have giving them motivation to push their lives in the directions that they want. Who knew quitting my job and following up on a hobby I enjoy would resonate with people.
4.) Time or money?
You know when I first say this question, I thought of course I would prefer having time over money. Now, as I type I’m leaning towards have money over time just because my ultimate goal is to travel and I kinda need money for that. But alas, I still with my initial choice of having time over money. Here’s the reason why. If I have more time, I could focus my energy on doing what I love which in turn would make me happier AND by doing so I can make that passion be my stability i.e. money.
5.) What is the one thing of are proud of but would never put on your resume?
Because it currently has nothing to do with the idea I have for my future business, my YouTube channel is one thing I wouldn’t put on my resume. Now, don’t go thinking I have this mass following or anything. I have still under 1k but I’m grateful for each one and proud of how far my channel has come over the pass two years.
6.) In 20 years from now, what do you want to remember?
I want to remember that I gave everything my all. That I took every opportunity that pushed me to be and do better. That I gained that hustler quality I saw in many others.
7.) What is something that you have always wanted to do since you were a kid?
Be a mermaid. And OMG guess what? That was something I could have aspired to be. Wish I knew that 15 years ago. So can you guess what my dream is? Yup, one day before I die, I want to be a mermaid. You’re probably thinking I’m crazy but there are many companies out there that not only sale mermaid tails but sell that experience as well. When I get to a point where I can splurge on a custom tail and have better control on holding my breath, IT WILL HAPPEN!!!
8.) When did you first realize life is short?
The day my mother died. She was 42 and I was only able to spend 21 years with her.
9.) What memory from the past makes you smile the most?
For obvious reasons, any memory that relates to my mother.
10.) Are you proud of what you are doing or what you have done?
Even though I have my moments of thinking I should be further along in life, I realize that life is just going to happen. I am proud of how far I’ve come and how strong I’ve become. Do I wish I made smarter choices, of course, but everyday is a chance to do better so that’s what I’m going to do.
11.) In one year from today, how do you want to be different?
I am my own worst enemy, so I one year I want to be my friend. To have less fears, more drive (improve my hustle), and to be less self-destructive.
12.) Are you doing what you believe in or settling for what you are doing?
As of June 2016, I can proudly say that I am doing what I believe in.
13.) What do you need to do to make it happen?
Hustle, hustle, hustle and continuing to learn.
14.) What do you absolutely love in life?
Aside from my family, I’m still searching. But I pray but sometime next year, the answer will be me.
15.) Has your greatest fear come true?
16.) What is success for you?
Having the time and peace of mind to do any & everything that makes me happy.
17.) What makes you feel great about yourself?
Still on that road to self-discovery. So when I find out, I’ll let you know. 😉
18.) What do you admire most in the world?
That even with all the hatred and pain in the world, there are still people out there who love others fully and without judgement.
19.) If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like doing?
Fear. The fear of failing, fear of rejection, fear that we don’t matter, and the fear of the unknown.
20.) When was the last time you started something new?
I truly haven’t started anything new in a long time. However, I constantly pick up old hobbies that I soon stop again within a few weeks…does that count?
21.) In order of importance, how would you rank happiness, money, love, health, and fame?
Happiness, love, health, money, then fame.
22.) What is the thing that didn’t last forever, but was still worth while?
Being in my longest term relationship to date (years ago). I learned lot during that time period and I was able to grow so much from the experience.
23.) What has fear or failure stopped you from doing?
Fear of failure. Constantly reminding myself that I just need to go for it. Life is short and once I’m dead nothing will matter anyway.
24.) In one word, how would you spend the last month of your life?
25.) What do you want to be known for?
The person who gave it her all.
26.) What are you thankful for?
My family, and my physical and mental health.
27.) What do you need to let go of?
28.) If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
Nothing. I have nothing to lose.
Now that I’ve asked all 28 questions, I challenge you to do the same. If you’d like to start receiving The Happiness Series emails yourself, you can sign up here.